Erotica and steamy novels can go in more directions and may follow different story lines. One of them targets an aspect that a lot of people have in mind, without realizing it – the Madonna complex. Initially identified by Sigmund Freud, this complex is more common in men, yet it can also affect women. Basically, men tend to categorize women in two categories – saints and whores.

Men with this complex want a degraded partner for their sexual desires, but also a saint to have nearby. They want their partners to be saints, but they cannot develop a sexual desire for them. The complex is not a thing of the past, as it still exists today and affects plenty of people. While mostly associated with men, it is just as common in women.

Understanding the Madonna-whore complex

The Madonna complex is not necessarily about love or desire, but about both of them. The idea has been around for ages and has never been really identified until Sigmund Freud gave it a definition. It is fairly simple to understand. Some girls enjoy lust and love. Some of them are even desperate for sex and such desires – men love them and can fulfill their fantasies with them.

But on the other hand, men would not choose such a woman for marriage. There is a different “format” for the ideal girlfriend with marriage potential. She is less likely to engage in sex straight away. They represent a challenge and they are harder to get. The bad news is that even when involved in a meaningful relationship, men suffering from the Madonna-whore complex are still not “healed” and they will still seek sexual pleasure from the less desirable women.

While this complex is most commonly associated with men, the truth is today’s society feels more liberated than ever. Women are more open-minded than before and they seem to follow similar principles. They want a good man who works and cooks for long-term relationships, but they also enjoy carnal pleasure with a man who would never make a good husband.

What causes this complex? It is hard to tell. Some believe that the sufferer was raised by a cold mother. An overprotective mother may also provide the same emotional issue. Such a man will most likely court women with maternal qualities. But then, sexual satisfaction and desire are out of discussion in such a relationship.

Then, there are some theories that make more sense and affect today’s society. In mythology, women were seen in two different ways. Some of them were represented as clean virgin women ready for marriage, while others were defined as prostitutes. This concept might have evolved to target today’s society as well.

These days, the split is more obvious than ever. Women today need to face the worst parts of both these ideas. At the same time, it seems that even women believe in the idea. Simply put, more and more people believe that mixing femininity and sensuality is almost impossible to handle within the same relationship.

Now that you understand this complex, here are a few erotic novels that can give you more ideas about what it truly means.


Midnight Confessions, by Pat Gaudette

Why would someone cheat? Who cheats? What kind of person do you need to be in order to cheat? Adultery has never seen higher levels and there are a bunch of questions associated with it.

This book aims to provide answers to all of these questions. It is hard to find someone who has never been touched by this problem. Love and lust can work hand in hand, but they may also go separate ways.

This book brings in some steamy stories inspired from real facts – some stories that define the complex and underline the innate attitude to cheat in some people.


The Daredevil, by Maria Thompson Daviess

The Daredevil tells the story of an unusual love mixed with spicy lust and unique circumstances. It tells the story of a woman with great desires, as well as the attitude associated with a healthy relationship.

Roberta has gained glimpses into a different country. She does not go there as a spy, but to discover a completely different world. Her passion inevitably kicks in as she meets different people.

The story will explore her feelings and states as she goes from one mood to another based on the people she meets. It is a deep story of love, but it can also trigger a bunch of different emotions.


Minaret, by Leila Aboulela

Najwa’s life is dull and boring. She cleans rich families’ homes, although she has a degree. She has never imagined that she will become a maid. Instead, she had hopes for a career and a family.

Her quiet life reaches to end when a local coup sends her family to London – political exile. She embraces her religion, although she is content with her failed personal life.

However, Najwa meets Tamer. He is the younger brother of her boss. They realize they have something in common and they fall in love, but things are not going in the right direction.


Arranged, by R. K. Lilley

Her story is quite simple. Everyone thought she knew everything about life. She had morals, but one day, she sold her virginity to a rich man who had no feelings for her.

She would do it again for the money.

On the other hand, he is not too attracted to his bride. But as they get closer, he realizes his cravings are more intense than he thought. This is the perfect book to express the Madonna complex and how it can change relationships.


The Perfect Game, by J. Sterling

He is a game and she did not appreciate it. She, on the other hand, is the game changer he never expected in his life.

The story follows Cassie and Jack. He is a player, so she does not want anything to do with him. But Jack wants to have fun with Cassie.

Both of them are damaged on the inside. The situation gets quite ugly, but then, life becomes beautiful.


Revue, by K. M. Golland

Revue follows Josh’s story. He is a male performer in Wild Nights. Women literally throw themselves at him.

However, he is not interested in a relationship. Instead, he is after one night stands only and Corinne is his next target.

The new club photographer is not interested. She only wants to take pictures… Or so she believes.

Conclusion

Bottom line, the Madonna complex is rarely discussed about, yet most men can agree that they have had such thoughts at least once in their lives. It is getting quite common in women as well. These books will help you understand it better, but they also show how things can change to 180 degrees overnight.